Logic 101:The Lonely Effect- Brey

Ok Ok I know we been slackin lately but school and work have been real in our defense. Anyway I just HAVE to get at a growing phenomenon that's become a profound detrimental aspect of many females' lifestyle.

The Lonely Effect

Smh this sad sad epidemic has snuck up and sucker punched women from many different backgrounds square in the chest. We all know friends, family, and we can even see in strangers that loneliness plays a major role in their lives. I notice it in women more so that's who I comment on. Someone you love or just know casually may be lonely if they say/tweet/post on Facebook any of the following:

• "Niggas ain't shit"
• "I wish I could cuddle right now"
• "I hate guys"
• "I'm an empowered single woman"
• "#NW The Notebook...Missing him"
• "Bout to watch 106 & Park"

You get the idea. This is statistically not a surprise, as women outnumber us guys by A LOT. I'm gonna operate for the sake of this post under the notion that women don't want a guy that cheats (even to help the community). I asked around to see what these girls criteria was for guys, because maybe that's the reason. The black girls basically described Shemar Moore in "Diary of a Mad Black Woman"..whilst white girls basically described, yep, Ryan Gosling in "The Notebook". SMH

I'm by no means hating on the men those actors portrayed, because they were real, but let's be honest here ladies: Ridiculously high expectations will kill your potential relationships. Y'all gotta meet a person and like them for THEM. Not what you think they have the potential to be. You'll only be disappointed in the future. If he tears it up but can't read a book don't expect to change him into a scholar. Some things have room for growth naturally but keep it realistic that's all I ask. If he ain't shit while you're "Talking" he won't be shit in a relationship. Not thinking realistically combined with sheer bad luck results in pure unscathed loneliness.

All of us aren't the same as well, so a lot of you end up lonely because of what some moron did to you in high school. GET OVER IT. Bad shit happens to everyone for no reason at all everyday. Stop with the sense of entitlement and let's think clearly here. If he cheats don't assume every guy is gonna cheat. It isn't fair and you'll close off a potential window for happiness and true companionship. Otherwise you can end up like Dana Gordon on Entourage and be a "Career Girl", which is what should be a main focus already. Skip the slutty dress and club night and read a damn book or make career moves. You take care of you and the rest will fall into place. We don't want women who wander around aimlessly.

This of course is me venting cause the loneliness is at an all time high right now. It's gotten hard to watch. There of course are some of you who will continue to be lonely and not know why and that's to be expected. Others may already be prepared and locked in for "Cuffing Season". Either way I'm just giving my 2 cents so if you don't agree/dislike my post sorry but I quite frankly don't care.

I'm Out,

Brey